2020 Goals

I am, and have always been that wanker who loves a new year! There is just something about the feeling of a new and fresh year ahead of me that I just love. I am not going to lie, every year I set resolutions that I NEVER keep, maybe they are unrealistic? maybe I don’t handle the pressure of resolutions well? or maybe I have just been doing it wrong? That is why this year I am ditching the word resolution in favour of goals. For me this year is going to be about small changes that give big results.

Write more

Staring this blog mid last year has opened up something inside of me that I did not know still existed. I spent most of my school years being distinctly average in every subject bar English and this was purely because it was the only thing I have ever been truly passionate about. Writing, reading and all things words feels good for my soul. As I have touched on before, being a stay at home mum for near on a decade has been incredible but has also left me feeling a bit lost now that I am no longer attached to a baby or toddler 24/7. Not only am I hoping that 2020 will bring more success with my blog and social media but I am also learning that writing anything seems to help me be the best version of myself. I treated myself and my sister to Goodbye 2019 Hello 2020 by the inspirational ladies at project love and I am hooked! Putting my dreams, goals and feelings on paper has been incredibly therapeutic and the questions really provoked me to dig deep in myself to answer what I truly want moving forward-seriously recommend.

Lose Weight

Ok so if I write this down I am more likely to stick to it…. I hope. I don’t deal well with stress, upheaval or change. I can tell you exactly when it all started going wrong and it was during the process of buying this house, then followed the move, the loneliness of leaving my friends, and of course the craziness that renovating brings. As a really rubbish result I have gained weight and it’s time to stop ignoring it and do something about it. I have always been a bit of a yoyo dieter and the older I get, the more I am realising my weight is greatly affected by my mental health and my mental health is greatly affected by my weight, it is a totally vicious cycle but I feel that recognising this and my pattern of behaviour has given me the determination to work on myself this year. Following on from my love of writing, I ordered a three month food planner from Fox and Moon which includes a daily food diary, meal planner and weight loss pages, I am finding writing all of these down really helps to keep me on track and visualise where I am and where I want to be.

Less Screen Time

Of course on first glance this goal does not exactly go hand in hand with my goal to Blog more, but the screen time I am talking about is not blogging, emails and working on content, it’s the mindless times when you realise you are looking down at a screen when you should be looking up. I am the only person in the family who takes photos…. seriously if you checked my husbands camera roll you would not know me and the kids existed, with that said I will still be taking my phone out with me but handing it over to my husbands pocket as much as possible so I can keep my mind focused on family time, especially at weekends. The children are growing too fast and I don’t want to miss a thing.

Whatever your 2020 goals are, I hope you all have a fantastic start to the year.

Chynna xxx

The Relocation- One year on

So it has been just over a year since we relocated so I thought it was about time that I updated those of you who have been following our story as we reach this milestone. I can’t actually believe it has been a year already! It has gone so fast and I am truly loving our decision.

When I did our 6 month update we were at the beginning of our first summer living on the beautiful South Coast of Dorset and WOW what a summer it was, we were at the beach at least four times per week and would often head to the beach for dinner after school and work. We made the absolute most of it and life felt like a constant holiday. One thing I am very aware of this year is that as we head into Summer 2020 we need to watch the pennies more than last year. Let me tell you, ‘That holiday feeling’ did not just come from spending time at the beach, it came from living a life of maybe a bit too much ‘sod it lets get a round of ice creams’, stopping at the supermarket to pick up beach picnic food and a few too many cheers bubbles! The little treats all add up so this summer although I intend to have just as much fun, I also know we need to rein in the holiday vibes ever so slightly.

I believe my last relocation post was one of my first ever blog posts. I am now further into my blogging journey and it is one of the best things I have ever done, at a time where I was feeling a bit lonely and daunted with my new social situation i.e.. new place and no friends, blogging rescued me. I joined the Bournemouth Bloggers network with a bit of encouragement from my lovely friend Emma who runs the network, who I had met at a local messy play group. I have been to some incredible events this year and met some truly amazing people. As someone who has suffered with anxiety over the years, the blog is a great outlet for me and the social aspect of the events has really pushed me out of my comfort zone at a time it was needed. I have been fortunate enough to see huge growth on both my social media and blog and this in turn has led me to work with some great brands in the past 6 months. I am and will always be extremely grateful for opportunities that come my way and the continuous support of my followers and readers.

The littles have settled in to school very well and no longer have that newbie feeling. It has amazed me how accepting they have been to change. They had the best summer of their lives and now 2020 is here we are all on the countdown to those warmer days. My husband started a great job shortly after the move and not only is he loving it but he also spends a lot more time at home than he ever has done before, with the added perk of an early finish on a Friday meaning we get extra weekend time, the balance has been perfect for adjusting to our new lifestyle and it has been great having him around more for extra support at a time of such great change.

The house is coming along well, we have near on completed all of upstairs, which including taking a wall down and a full bathroom refit isn’t bad going. We will be taking a bit of a break after we do the landing, stairs and hallway to recoup some money, enjoy a bit of rest and save up for phase two. We are hoping to begin planning and potentially starting our extension in 2021 but we need to pay down some of the debt we have encured from renovating to make sure we are in the best possible position when it comes to taking on an expensive and time consuming task like an extension. As with the renovations we have done so far, even when we stop for our break we will still have plenty to do! With buying a fixer upper half the battle is making things temporarily liveable and that is exactly what we will be doing with downstairs. With potentially another two years until the extension is done we need to give downstairs a temporary makeover, also on our hit list for this year is the garden, doing up some furniture and snagging some of the finer details of rooms we have already done. So don’t worry, there will still be plenty more renovation updates coming from us this year.

As always being honest and real is my priority and while this blog post seems sickeningly happy of course there have been obstacles, darker times and struggles since my last update. Renovating around three children is tough, tougher than I ever thought it would be, I feel a lot of guilt sometimes that they live in an imperfect home with busy and often stressed parents, but like everything in life I try to keep in my mind that this is a phase and will pass. I love renovating and we are enjoying making our house a home but I can’t deny that we crave a bit of the old normality that we used to have at sometimes. I have always struggled with anxiety, especially in times where I feel out of control or like life is a bit upside down, life is often upside down these days and I feel as though doing up the house has meant that we still do not have much routine even one year on. As a result I have gained weight this year and my mental health has been a bit up and down at times. This year I will be tackling becoming more healthy and concentrating more on my wellbeing, these tend to go hand in hand with me and tackling one naturally results in improvement in the other. All in all a whirlwind but very exciting year, I look forward to updating you all again in the near future.

Chynna xxx

Aladdin at the Bournemouth Pavilion

There is nothing I love more than a pre Christmas trip to the panto to get me feeling festive. This was our first Christmas panto since the move and I could not wait to see what the show had in store for us. When we arrived the Pavilion Theatre was absolutely buzzing with the excited chatter of children and their families, with the show still early in it’s release it was a full audience.

As with most pantomimes the story of Aladdin came secondary to the hilarious one liners and audience participation, I think the balance of story telling, singing and laughs worked really well in this performance. The undoubted stars of the show were David Ball as Widow Twanky and the hilarious Noel Brodie as Wishee Washee, their energy throughout the whole performance was amazing and they kept the children laughing all the way through with plenty of adult humour thrown in for good measure. The audience were up on their feet and singing along a number of times. With the show being quite new to the Pavilion there were still a few teething issues however these were dealt with seamlessly and the ad libbing from the characters made the show even more entertaining.

Eastenders star Richard Blackwood played the villain faultlessly and the clever use of lighting meant that he was portrayed as a baddie without terrifying the children. X Factors Amelia Lily was brilliant as the Spirit of the Ring, her powerful voice had the children captivated whenever she spoke or sang, a true star!

On a whole the show provides a great couple of hours of entertainment for all of the family. We left the show feeling festive and with the children singing songs from the show. There were a few moments where I felt that the adult banter and innuendos were a bit much for such a young audience and could have been toned down slightly in places. I also found an Ed Sheeran number between Aladdin and Jasmine a bit of an odd choice due to it’s raunchy wording, when the song first began I thought they would be changing the wording however this was not the case and bar a few lines of the song, most of the lyrics were not really fitting. Regardless we had a great time, the children were entertained throughout and a great night was had by all.

If you are looking for some family fun over the festive period you can catch Aladdin at the Bournemouth Pavilion until 5th January 2020. Tickets are available to purchase Online, from the box office or by phone.

We were kindly gifted tickets to see the show however all words and opinions are of my own. Images provided by BH Live.